2013 promises to be similar to all previous years. It begins on January 1 and will end on December 31. It will last exactly one year. Each month offers as many weekends as before and the same number of holidays will come and go. There will be a few changes in your life however, so let me turn to that subject and offer a few ideas to keep in mind.
It Probably Doesn’t Matter
Most of the things you think might happen to you will not. If they do, you will discover that they do not affect you the same way you thought they would. Recall that in previous years there were things that happened to you that turned out for the best. You worried quite a bit about things that never actually happened. 2013 will offer the same number of unfounded concerns as last year. The lesson here is that most of the things you are worried about don’t really matter.
It Isn’t as Bad as You Think
Last year you heard all kinds of news that left you feeling vulnerable, scared or uncertain. It is good to be cautious, but it is not good to become paralyzed with fear. Looking back, there were some high points from last year that you might want to revisit. There were moments when you felt pretty incredible, empowered and comfortable. 2013 promises to offer the same menu of outcomes. Do you remember all those things that troubled you a few years ago? Yeah, me neither. Keep a perspective in 2013.
Love the One You’re With
If you’re down and confused and you don’t remember who you’re talking too: concentration slips away because your baby is so far away. Well there’s a rose in the fisted glove, and the eagle flies with the dove, and if you can’t be with the one you love honey, love the one you’re with. (Barney Martin)
The whole “rose in the fisted glove” is a bit cryptic, but the rest makes sense. If you feel over-extended, then unextend yourself. If you are bothered by the glare of society, then get a new pair of shades. If the voices of the world sound noisy, buy a pair of ear plugs. Make life as simple as it needs to be, because life is pretty simple. Spend more time listening to those few people who make you smile; make you feel good about yourself. Screw the rest.
Make a List of Goals
Make a list of goals and throw it away. You are fine the way you are, right not, in this moment. There is nothing magical about the coming of a New Year. It is just another day. Don’t start the New Year off by piling on a lot of extra expectations. Who needs that kind of pressure? Just go with the flow. Ease up. Sleep an extra hour.
Plan More Dinners
People fight about most anything and everything. We all agree on one thing though – we love to eat. Worried about the fiscal cliff? Bake some cookies! Concerned about gun control? Grill salmon. Want to feel connected to people in your community? Invite them over for dinner. Do not spend your time in worry – invest it in people, invest it in your local community. Be with others. Do for others. Leave your worries on the doorstep. Walk on the sunny side of the street.
As my dearly departed depression-era mother was fond of saying, “I worried that I had no shoes; until I met a man who had no feet.”
“So you took his shoes?” I would ask.
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